Borderline Personality Disorder

A borderline suffers a kind of “emotional hemophilia”; she lacks the clotting mechanism needed to moderate her spurts of feeling. Prick the delicate “skin” of a borderline and she will emotionally bleed to death. Sustained periods of contentment are foreign to the borderline. Chronic emptiness depletes him untilhe is forced to
original (1)do anything to escape. In the grip of these lows, the borderline is prone to a myriad of impulsive, self-destructive acts—drug and alcohol binges, 
eating marathons, anorexic fasts, bulimic purges, gambling forays, shopping sprees, sexual promiscuity, and selfmutilation. He may attempt suicide, often not with the intent to die but to feel something, to confirm he is alive

(from “I Hate YouDon’t Leave MeUnderstanding the Borderline Personality” by Jerold Kreisman)


What does it mean to be “borderline”?

Borderline Personality Disorder is characterized by a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, affects, and marked impulsivity.

Its prevalence is about 2% of the adult population and varies between 30 and 60% among the clinical population with personality disorders.

Onset occurs in adolescence or in early adulthood.

Epidemiological data show that Borderline Personality Disorder is diagnosed mainly in women (approximately 75%) (DSM IV-TR).


How does Borderline Personality Disorder manifest itself?

DSM IV-TR lists the criteria (at least 5) to make a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder:

  1. frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.
  2. a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
  3. identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self
  4. impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, Substance Abuse, reckless driving, binge eating).
  5. recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
  6. affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
  7. chronic feelings of emptiness
  8. inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
  9. transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

Individuals who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder fear (consciously or unconsciously) abandonment by others, therefore they may appear extremely sensitive to signs of rejection (real or perceived) by the significant people they interact with in their lives.

They tend to assume positions of “all or nothing”, “black or white” with no “shades of gray”, both towards the image they have of themselves, and towards their goals, but also, and especially, in relationships , which are frequently characterized by oscillations between moments of extreme closeness and positivity and moments of absolute distance and incompatibility. This is linked to a tendency to “idealize” others (polarizing their qualities) but also, hereafter, to “devalue” (that is, to see only their less appreciable parts that become, at this point, intolerable).

People with Borderline Personality Disorder have great difficulties managing their emotional states, which are often experienced as uncontrollable and overwhelming and can be managed with ways  that are aimed to reach a state of tranquillity and emotional well-being but that tend to cause even more suffering in the end (eg as self harm – cut to handle mental pain).

There may be impulsive behaviors (substance use, excessive spending), self mutilating or suicidal behaviors. There can be a tendency to experience strong feelings of anger, which can activate quickly in a reactive way and disappear slowly, feelings of emptiness and consequent behaviors in order to avoid them. Affective instability is often present.

These symptoms can appear quite frequently but it is important to remember that each person lives and therefore expresses its suffering in a unique and different way.

“Borderline Personality Disorder” diagnosis may be useful to define difficulties that may have never had a name, but behind this term there are people with their own history. Only these people can tell their story so it can be fully understood.



Borderline Personality Disorder may have symptoms similar to those belonging to other psychiatric disorders (eg, mood disorders), and this can make a correct diagnosis difficult.


downloadIf you think you suffer from borderline personality disorder, contact a psychotherapist expert in personality disorders to book a visit in order to have a proper diagnosis.




A treatment that provides a multidisciplinary approach to psychological suffering (psychotherapy and, if necessary medication with a psychiatrist) can help you feel better.


Books that may interest you on this subject:

  • Hate YouDon’t Leave MeUnderstanding the Borderline Personality by Jerold Kreisman
  • Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen


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